The War for Kindness
Building Empathy in a Fractured World
Despite causing an enormous amount of suffering, the pandemic has also helped us gain clarity and make progress around our values. In the working world, leaders are recognizing empathy as an organizational superpower that prevents burnout, improves collaboration, and strengthens leadership across the board. JAMIL ZAKI, a Stanford psychologist and author of the books The War for Kindness and Leading with Empathy in Turbulent Times, reveals cutting-edge strategies for how to empathize more effectively in the workplace.
“In this masterpiece, Jamil Zaki weaves together the very latest science with stories that will stay in your heart forever.”— Angela Duckworth, author of Grit
During challenging times, there tend to be more negative emotions going around than positive ones: feelings of stress, anxiety, loss, and instability, for example, skyrocketed during the pandemic. Unfortunately, workplace cultures that aren’t welcoming of all emotions on the human spectrum tend to suffer more during a crisis. “Such cultures lead people to hide their experiences or feign positivity they don’t feel—a phenomenon known as ‘surface acting,’” explains Jamil Zaki, Director of Stanford’s Social Neuroscience Lab and one of the world’s preeminent speakers on empathy. “While working from home in 2020, team members might have been going through family stressors just a few feet away from a video conference, but for the sake of professionalism pretended all was well. This style of surface acting has likely contributed to a shocking 75% rate of reported work burnout during the pandemic.” In his e-book Leading with Empathy in Turbulent Times, Zaki shows us how empathy can be used to motivate teams through times of uncertainty, create a sense of belonging and psychological safety in the workplace, and even help bridge the gap between remote and in-person employees as the world transitions towards a hybrid model.
Zaki’s previous book, The War for Kindness, weaved together the latest science with engaging real-world stories, offering us a revolutionary perspective on empathy and how to develop it as a skill. Adam Grant, bestselling author and professor at Wharton, says, “Jamil Zaki is one of the bright lights in psychology, and in this gripping book, he shows that kindness is not a sign of weakness but a source of strength.” With warmth, wit, and straightforward exercises that can be swiftly implemented, Zaki shows audiences how to change their professional, creative, and personal relationships for the better.
At Stanford, where he is also an assistant professor of psychology, Zaki’s unique work spans several domains, including social influence and prosocial behavior. New research from his lab examines how to encourage empathy for people from distant political and ethnic groups, and also how caregivers and healthcare professionals can balance empathizing with their patients and maintaining their own wellbeing. Zaki received his BA from Boston University, his Ph.D. from Columbia University, and postdoctoral training at Harvard University.